2 posts tagged “family”
I'm the newbie on the block of married couples. So is hubby. We kinda saw it coming - just that we have no idea how things would turn out once we started living together.
Now, we are finally living together.
We have to get used to each other's little quirks, habits and temperaments. We have to get used to the fact that yes, we've each acquired an additional pair of parents and siblings and their offsprings. And since property prices are waaaaaayyyy to high and unaffordable, and that we want to spend equal amount of time with our respective biological parents, we are living with them (its complicated so I'll save you ur grey matter). Economically its a little less expensive than if we were to own a place of our own, but of course it will come with some practical inconveniences. Like having to store two sets of clothes: One set at his parents, and another at mine. Everything has to come in pairs. If only we can clone ourselves so that our cloned selves can be with the other set of parents at the same time - now wouldnt that be perfect?
A lot of rationalisation kicks in these day - the need to ask the main purpose and intention of doing something became more eminent as we realise that there is now a need to answer to a lot more people for our actions (yeah - not just our parents okay). Every immediate family member we have has to adjust themselves as a result of our newly acquired identities and arrangements. We also have to switch on our grey matter to constantly manage the expectations of everyone around us. Now you know why its so tiring for newly weds!
Take my word - Marriage is certainly not a union of two individuals. It is definitely a union of two families.
Come 'on girls! Get on your feet! Its International Women's Day! A day where the world celebrates and recognises the achievements of women. Women out there, you all deserve a pat on your back for all the contributions you've made for the society. Of couse, we also do hope that there would be more benefits for stay-at-home moms who'd sacrificed their career to groom our younger generations and to prepare them to take over the helm when we have all passed on. I also wish that there would be better medical benefits for non-working mothers, and more financial assistants for women with low income jobs who have bravely taken up the role to bring up her children single handedly after their spouse had passed on.
May I also wish that working mothers be granted flexible work hours once she has her first child. Do not penalise working mothers who need to take time off from work to look after their children - if their performance is still consistent. Do not put unreasonable expectations on mothers- for they have a lot of juggling to do! At home, they try to maintain a healthy relationship with her husband, and strive to hold the family together when her husband is striking out to bring more bread for the family. At her in-laws, she has to manage expectations from new set of parents she's acquired through marriage. At work, she has to strive to be a good employee that contributes to the company's bottomline. Look here, she's a superwoman! So cut her some slack!
Our canadian boss is buying a cake for the women in the office today - to celebrate IWD. How nice! So whats your office to mark the IWD today?
